Have you seen yourself matched with a woman on your profile and decided to say “Hi” to the person but can’t find the message box? If you’ve experienced that, you may have also noticed that it doesn’t work the same way with users of the same gender. So, what’s the deal? Do women have to message first in Bumble? Keep reading to find out everything you need to know about that question.
Do women have to message first on Bumble?
The Bumble app is designed to basically put women in charge, but that doesn’t mean they have to be the first person to send a message to a match every time. A man can send the first message if he wants to.
Generally, the world of online dating has been dominated by men. But Bumble decided to turn the tides and designed its platform to give women the power to make the first move and decide who they want to talk to.
One of the key features of Bumble is that it allows women to take the initiative in starting conversations with potential matches. This is intended to address one of the common complaints women have about online dating, which is that men often send inappropriate or overly aggressive messages.
By requiring women to message first, Bumble hopes to create a more respectful and positive experience for all users. Additionally, this feature allows women to have more control over who they engage with and when which can help to reduce the risk of harassment or unwanted attention.
Generally, if you’re a man who has matched with a woman, you will have to wait for the woman to talk to you first.
Can a guy message first on Bumble?
While the general rule on Bumble is that only women can initiate conversations, there are a few exceptions to this rule.
For example, if a man is gay and has indicated that on the platform, he could message first, following the new update to the Bumble app.
Another exception is when a man is matched with a man (which is a typical gay relationship). In this case, you’d also be permitted to send the message first, even as a man.
Note that after 24 hours of not making contact with your match, the match would automatically disappear, unless you’re signed up to Bumble boost.
Generally, users who have subscribed to Bumble Boost have the ability to rematch with expired connections and extend matches. If a man has Bumble Boost and has matched with a woman who has already reached out to him, he can then send the first message.
Overall, while the majority of conversations on Bumble are initiated by women, there are some situations in which men can send the first message. This allows for a more balanced and respectful experience on the app, while still giving women the ability to control who they engage with and when.
Why does Bumble only allow women to message first?
If at any point you got to know that women are the ones allowed to send messages first, you may have asked yourself why Bumble allows women to message you first. Bumble added this feature for some reasons, knowing fully well how it will affect men’s ego. Let’s look at some of these reasons.
To level the playing field
Women are often bombarded with messages from men on dating apps, and this can be very overwhelming. Allowing them to message first helps to prevent this from happening. That is why the platform ensured to help women regulate how much men can disturb them.
To give women more control over the conversation
When women are able to message first, they can set the tone for the conversation and ensure that it stays respectful. This is important since especially if they’re meeting a man for the first time online. Since men know that they don’t have the chance to start the conversation, they tend to take the conversation seriously with the women who message them first and respect whatever they say.
It helps to weed out disrespectful men
Most dating apps tend to have a lot of well-mannered and disrespectful men. This is likely because they enjoy the freedom to dominate women’s inboxes easily, anytime they like. That’s why the Bumble app allowed women to start the conversation. That way, men who tend to be disrespectful on other dating apps will learn to adjust and behave well since they probably want to go on a date with that match.
What happens if you don’t message first on Bumble?
Well, there’s basically no problem if you don’t send a message first as soon as you are matched with another user. However, you will be missing out on a lot of potential matches!
In addition, you won’t be able to stand out from the crowd. There are so many users on the platform, which means it can sometimes be hard to get noticed. And if you’re not the type of user who sends the first message, you’re definitely throwing away your little chance of grabbing someone’s attention.
Note again, men are not allowed to send messages first, except in rare conditions.
Final Thoughts
Bumble only allows women to initiate conversations with potential matches. However, in a case where a man is gay or matches with some other man, they could be permitted to message first on the app.
